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Monday, October 02, 2006

‘Love is a lot like a backache, it doesn't show up on X-rays, but you know it’s there.’- George Burns

Faith and love... you know, the small stuff!

‘Can miles truly separate you from friends...? If you want to be with someone you love, aren't you already there?’ – Richard Bach

I haven’t been posting lately, my mind being somewhat disorganized. I want to start by thanking my dear friends who have, through comments, e-mails, messages in chat and their blogs, sent my family and I much needed love, support, good thoughts and prayers.

‘He who has faith has... an inward reservoir of courage, hope, confidence, calmness, and assuring trust that all will come out well - even though to the world it may appear to come out most badly.’ - B. C. Forbes

This weekend I took my father (who gets motion sickness when someone rocks in a rocking chair in the same room as he is – yes, it’s THAT bad) to see Mom at the hospital.
Got him in the car, and drove the approximately 30 minutes it takes to drive into the city and navigate the side streets of downtown Montreal. He didn’t complain - and usually he uses the ‘passenger side invisible break’ at least 3 times in a drive of that length.
Once we got to the hospital he walked what seemed like 100 feet to get in the building (the door which leads to an elevator just a mere 10 feet from where we parked the car is closed on Sundays... of course!) Okay, so it wasn’t 100 feet, but it sure felt like was, Dad walks slowly, he’s 86… remember watching George Burns walk in the final years? Once in the building I sat him in a wheelchair (why didn’t I think of it before the long walk… sheesh!) and took him to the ER (yes… she’s still in the ER as they don’t have a single free bed in the Oncology ward or the free world for that matter!) to see Mom.

What came next was, well, it was magic.

My mother knew that my father was coming and had asked my aunt (her sister who had come in from out of town to visit) to brush her hair. The most wonderful smile came over her when she saw Dad. In her eyes, I saw a young girl, giddy from her first crush. I pushed the wheelchair up to the bed and stood back as my mother took my father’s hands in hers - as I’ve mentioned in a previous post, my father is legally blind – he can no longer see the details of a person’s face, much less if her hair is properly coiffed. But my mother’s face is etched in his heart. She brought her head close to his and they kissed, and I watched them with some guilt. I felt like I was intruding in the most intimate of moments, as they talked to each other with their heads close, their foreheads touching. And I let them be alone together because I don’t know when or if my parents will see each other again in this lifetime.

‘In the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.’ - Paul McCartney

In the meantime, I hugged my aunt, and told her I love her. I thought she was going to cry in my arms, but the women in my family have been through a great deal and we know, there is always someone who needs us and we draw strength from each other.

I know that as my aunt looked at my mother she was reminded of my grandmother’s cancer, the gauntness of her face, the frailness of her body. But my mother and her sisters are the strongest women I’ve ever met, and it’s a trait that I intend to carry on and so will my daughter.

My aunt and I chatted about her husband, who has lost a leg to diabetes and is relying on her more and more, becoming less and less sure of himself … and about everyone else in the family who is going through a rough patch. And I know that when the end does come, I’ll be holding many of them together, as my mother did before me. I am not the eldest, as is my mother, but I have inherited her resolve and her role in the family.

I could see that although he was happier than... no... that’s not the word… serene, I think it describes it better.. more serene than he’d been in a long time, Dad was tired. So I told him we’d go home and he could have a nice cup of tea and rest. He kissed my mother, and told her he loves her with such tenderness that even a non-softie like me can’t help but be touched by it. She beamed, and I forgot, for a moment, that she was ill. My father was the best painkiller she could be given.

They had talked everyday since she was in the extended care facility and those little chats had made them feel closer, giving them strength. Much like chatting with my wonderful extended family that I love so much, my Soul Patrol brothers and sisters, has lifted me when I need support. But since she's been admitted to the hospital last Thursday, it was the first chance they had to speak.. to reconnect..

‘Today I begin to understand what love must be, if it exists.... When we are parted, we each feel the lack of the other half of ourselves. We are incomplete like a book in two volumes of which the first has been lost. That is what I imagine love to be: incompleteness in absence.’ – Goncourt

Seeing my parents together again gave me renewed faith and hope for the world…
In that brief time… I saw Magic…

‘I would rather have thirty minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special.’ - Shelby Eatenton Latcherie (Steel Magnolias)

In the spirit of true love and great couples…

"One day, the audience realized I had a terrific talent. They were right. I did have a terrific talent. And I was married to her for 38 years." - George Burns, about Gracie Allen.

To get a sense of how well Burns and Allen worked together: visit the Old Time Radio Show catalog website and click on the ‘Sweeping into Office MP3’ ... if you don’t laugh, you must be dead!

Allen Family Circus

Well, Gracie, any news from home?
Yes. I got a letter from my little niece, Jean.
What did she say?
She didn't say anything. She didn't phone. It was a letter, and she wrote it.
I mean what did she write?
It's Spring again, and my family is putting on a backyard circus, just like we did when I was a kid.
Every Spring you kids used to put on your own circus?
Yes. Of course, admission was free, but that was only for the people who could afford it.
Well, that's because we're living in a democracy.
Oh yes, isn't it nice.... Anyway, my Cousin Barney was the sword swallower, and what a performance he put on. The kids would cheer when he put a sword four feet long down his throat.
Could Barney really swallow a sword?
Oh, George, don't be silly, it was a trick. You know the scabbard that the sword fits into?
Well, before the show he would stick that down his throat.
I see.
Then when he'd slip the sword into it...
...everybody thought he was swallowing it.
It's a shame to fool the public like that.
But the admission was free.
Oh, I forgot.
And Uncle Otis was the strong man. He'd come out in a leopard skin and put big nails in his mouth and twist them between his teeth until they'd bend.
That's quite a trick.
Yes, but he looked pretty ridiculous walking around with all those bent teeth.
Well, they'd come in handy if he happened to get a crooked ear of corn.
Oh, you live and learn.... And Aunt Gertrude was the snake charmer.
Aunt Gertrude? The one who's so near-sighted?
Yes. She had a little snake and she was supposed to put it in a basket and then blow on a flute until the snake stuck its head up. And what do you suppose happened one Saturday afternoon?
She put the flute in the basket and blew on the snake.
Wasn't that awful!
That must have upset her.
Oh, George, it wasn't a real snake. It was just a few worms tied together.
Well, that's better. Who else was in the side show?
One of the big hits was Uncle Harvey and Aunt Clara.
What was there act?
Half man...half woman.
But didn't you have two halves left over?
Oh no, they both got into one costume.
Now I get the picture.
George, it wasn't a picture, they did it in person.
What was your part in the circus?
I was the lion tamer.
You were the lion tamer?
Of course I just used our house cat. For two weeks before the circus I taught her all kinds of sit on a pedestal, to roll over, to play dead.
Sounds like a pretty smart cat.
Yes, but when she got in front of the audience she forgot all her tricks and just had kittens.
That must have caused a sensation.
It was...but what good was it? The silly cat wouldn't do it again for the second performance.
Say good night, Gracie.
Good night.

‘Laughter through tears is my favorite emotion.’ – Truvy Jones(Steel Magnolias)

I love you all more than my luggage!
Hugs, smooches and gropes.

Comments on "‘Love is a lot like a backache, it doesn't show up on X-rays, but you know it’s there.’- George Burns"


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (7:03 PM) :


Anonymous duckles said ... (8:23 PM) : 

{Hugs} **wiping tears**


Anonymous Travis said ... (8:48 PM) : 



Blogger Anndi said ... (10:35 PM) : 

Thank you my friends.. Love you all!

Guess I better leave a box of tissues out.


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (11:14 PM) : 

OK Sweetness.. the first rule of bloggig is that you can't make your readers cry like a baby and then expect them to be able to read the brilliance of a comedy team like Burns and Allen through all the tears...

You are an incredible soul... It is we who are lucky to have met you darling.


Blogger Diana said ... (12:04 AM) : 

omg, reminded me of my mother...


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (12:16 AM) : 

Ann my darling. That was beautiful. I am crying...we should all be so lucky to have a love like that come through our lives once...they are blessed to have one another...

Tears flowing...


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (9:39 AM) : 


You just painted a most beautiful picture of the perfect couple. A couple who has been together forever. You painted the perfect picture of true love.


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (11:07 AM) : 

Tears streaming down my face Angelbaby.

I am blessed to have you in my life.


Anonymous damm said ... (3:37 PM) : 

don't hog the tissues turn!


Anonymous Maryfly said ... (3:56 PM) : 

love you sweetie - *wipes eyes* amazing writing


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (12:01 AM) : 

What else can be said? "please pass the tissues"
Love ya, Robin


Anonymous Anonymous said ... (10:51 AM) : 

Awww...ok, can I cry now?

Wait - out of tissues and the community snotrag is being cleaned....

Anndi, your parents have a love that we all hope we find. Thank you for sharing that little piece with us.

Funny, I love you more than your luggage too. :D


Blogger the108 said ... (12:45 PM) : 

I'm speechless. Really... I don't know what to say... your parents love is beautifl and inspiring...


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